3D Bi-Aural Sound at Cornetto Cinema

Teengirl and I love the unusual and unexpected which was a really good thing when we caught a screening of Cornetto UK’s innovative immersive movie and theatre experience Two Sides.

We’d been given the barest of details so neither of us had any idea what to expect when we turned up at Westfield Stratford last week – FYI it is the biggest and tallest mall I’ve been in outside of America!

And we got the unexpected!

Cornetto UK recently launched their Cupidity short film Two Sides. The movie combines a teen love story with the usual problems teenagers in love have with 3D bi-aural cinema sound. It also manages to seamlessly combine it with immersive theatre to create a ‘truly unique storytelling experience’ that enthralled both Teengirl and I.

cornetto cinema box office - pop up 3D sound cinema with immersive theatre

Our ticket to entry was a Cornetto. I had strawberry and Teengirl had a classic served up Starbucks style in a dual Cornetto holder with our names written on with tiny lovehearts drawn beside them.

Cornetto ‘tickets’ in hand Teengirl and I switched on our headphones, set them to the correct channel and made sure we were wearing them the correct way (blue on the right ear) before taking our seats in the tiny, three-row, intimate cinema.

a cornetto was our ticket to entry

 As the movie began and the small room erupted in laughter as a man in the front row took his headphones off, looked at them and put them back on the right way!

And that’s an important point – the sound coming through the headphones is different, a bit weird and if like me you’ve never heard 3D or bi-aural sound before, slightly unexpected.

Before the movie started I could hear ‘voices’ in my ears and moving between my ears as the sound of people chattering was piped in. When I closed my eyes I felt as though I could ‘see’ where in the room these chattering people were standing.

Once the movie started I heard the male character’s voice in one ear and the female lead in the other and I’m sure I could hear them in different ears at the same time. It was as if the sound was all around me and inside my head. At first I didn’t recognise this was happening, then when I realised it, I paid attention and then forgot about it as I got sucked into the movie that explores ‘the trials and adventures of teen love’.

The movie was described to me as being in 3D sound but I quickly discovered it was more like 4D all round. And that’s all I’m going to tell you.

I really want to tell you more but I can’t because I don’t want to give you any hints as to what happened next. It’s much more effective if it’s a surprise. Believe me your experience will be so much better if you don’t know what’s going to happen and you expect the unexpected.

Now go and see it. Immerse yourself in it, hear it like you’ve never heard anything before, feel it, love it and then tell everybody else to go see it – because you will want to.

The pop-up cinema runs until August 4th at Westfield Stratford and it’s free for everybody.

Two Sides movie with 3D and bi-aural sound combined with immersive theatre

Cornetto UK describes Two Sides as part of a series of short films where four international directors have sourced romantic inspiration from all over the world to ensure each film shares a beautiful and compelling love story.




This is My Peri-Menopause

Nobody told me that peri-menopause would turn me into a hypercritical, overthinking, overheating mess who woke up with sickness inducing anxiety after a sleepless night invaded by night sweats and chills.

Then there’s the headaches, brain fog, exhaustion, depression, poor concentration and memory that come and go with such intensity and extremeness but little cyclical connection that I began to believe I was losing my mind.

I thought ‘the change’ would pull me from my 40s into my 50s ranting and raving at the world, kicking and screaming against the unfairness of being female.

But no I instead feel hollow, as if someone has taken a spoon to my insides and scooped out all my anger, all my drive rendering me a bit pathetic, sickeningly nervous and seriously sweaty.

The woman I am today is such a stranger to me I couldn’t even conjure her up in my imagination.

peri-menopause has changed me and I hate it

I turned 44 last week and for the past couple of years I’ve been asking my doctor to do something about the hot flushes, headaches and night sweats I’d been sporadically having.

Initially I was told, at 41, that I was too young to be peri-menopausal and refused tests. Then at 42 instead of investigating where my hormones stood another GP put me on the contraceptive pill to ‘help with my symptoms’.

But about eight months ago my original sweaty symptoms received the very unwelcome additions of anxiety, depression and lack of confidence, with a side order of insomnia, brain fog and concentration problems.

Recently, despite taking Logynon without fail, all the symptoms have increased in intensity and the length of time they spend torturing me. They turn up almost every month regularly but without regularity – I never know when they’re coming they just turn up when they feel like it and knock the absolute fuck out me.

My periods only last for two or three days but are so heavy I need two extra long, extra thick towels at a time.

I’m a self-confident person. I believe in me and I believe in my ability. But when the emotional shitstorm of hormones attack me I can I can barely bring myself to speak to people. I definitely couldn’t even consider standing up for myself or arguing my point (not the greatest symptom to have in a newsroom!). And I question my judgement on everything making me a hypercritical overthinking (overheating) mess.

I can cope with the physical symptoms – I have been for at least a couple of years now – but I can’t cope with this emotional super killer downward slide .

I’ve been to see a new GP who can’t believe I’m experiencing these symptoms while taking the pill!?!

She’s sent me for blood tests to check more than my hormone levels just in case it’s something else. We’re both aware that taking the pill will affect how my hormones appear in the results.

We’ve discussed HRT options and I’m most likely going to go down the Mirena coil route for the constant progesterone and a oestrogen patch.

A friend suggested I go down the ‘change your menopause with diet’ route instead of pumping my body full of synthetic hormones that are so bad for me.

I said: “I’ve put hormones into my body for years taking the pill. So I will happily ram a bucketful of hormones into my system if it makes me feel like myself again.”

Peri-menopause Symptoms Include:

Night sweats

Night Chills

Hot flushes

Weight gain


Disturbed sleep





Brain fog

Memory problems

Concentration problems

And so much more because it turns out every woman’s menopause is different.

If you think you may be experiencing peri-menopause symptoms please visit your doctor. And don’t be fobbed off like I was, state your symptoms and what you believe is wrong with you and how you’d like to be treated.

It’s your body and its your peri-menopause.

The final puzzle piece

Blue skies were hidden above grey mist as we walked along the Southbank to the Evelina. I saw her heart on the screen, heard its beat sounding exactly like it did when my belly was filled with her. The “whuuf, whoof, whuuf, whoof” filled the ultrasound room and I watched the tropical storm of colours light up her heart on the screen – red, blue, yellow – like I was watching the weather channel predicting storms ahead.

Every time the sonographer paused my own heartbeat took a pause as I tried to see what she was seeing in my daughter’s heart.

The ‘specialist’ doctor – who didn’t even know who had referred teengirl or even the name of the genetic disorder – explained that her heart was fine in relation to the genetic disorder (that’s exactly what she called it!) but the sonographer had spotted a very small leak in her mitrial valve, but it was nothing to worry about and not related to the genetic condition. I took shorthand notes as I have always done with all of teengirl’s medical appointments.

After teengirl’s appointment we took joy from the little things London laid on for us – the little boy going “wheeee” as he slid down the Evelina’s slide we were too tall to slide on. The smell of Christmas at the German market, the busker’s gravelly voice as he sang “Driving Home for Christmas”, the didgeridoo played with such passion. And the knowledge that right now Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome isn’t eating her heart.

Over the past four years I’ve watched teengirl deteriorate but none as fast as this year. She’s gone from being a young girl who spent hours jumping on our trampoline to a 15 year old, old women who struggles to walk for five minutes, can’t write for ten and finds climbing stairs an almost impossibility such is her pain.

Teengirl was at the Evelina children’s hospital to have her heart scanned. Just two months before she’d been diagnosed with hypermobility in her small joints and being in the spectrum of Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome – a rare genetic disorder of the connective tissue with several different types. One of the first things they do is scan the heart to ensure there are no vascular issues caused by EDS.

Because teengirl suffered a subdural hematoma (brain haemorrhage) at nine months old that neurologists failed to investigate reasons for, and her hypermobility is focused on her small joints – with subsequent pain in her large joints – her consultant is concerned that she may have vascular EDS type 4.

Over and above all the physically debilitating problems vascular EDS serves up it can also cause blood vessels to erupt and cause serious vascular problems.

It is life threatening.

holding my breath

That afternoon I exhaled, just a little bit, after holding my breath for two months. As I drove home from work I realised my chest had been slowly filling up with tears over the past couple of months. My shoulders have moved closer to my shoulders, my body tight as a racehorse ready to run, every sense on hypervigilant alert.

My PTSD was back with a vengeance.

I knew the day itself would bring me emotional flashbacks. But it’s only with hindsight I realise I’d been suffering from them every day as the day rushed towards me.

It didn’t matter the outcome. What mattered was reaching it without falling down, without letting go. What mattered was making sure the tears stayed in. What mattered was making sure my protective cage was around me holding me up.

What mattered was managing to continue to breathe without breath.

What mattered was making sure I didn’t let her down, that I was her scaffolding, the wall for her to lean on, the sweeping brush to collect up her shattered pieces should the worst happen.

What mattered was that she knew I was there for her and always would be.

Afterwards, I felt so fragile I was scared I was going to break. I should’ve been happy but all I wanted to do was get under my duvet, curl up and sleep for a whole day cocooned in slumber, free from dreams of hospitals and rollercoasters, doctors and needles, judgement and humiliation.

**I am at the start of a long journey of education about Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS). Teengirl is still a long way from definitive diagnosis of type – if she ever gets one. Obviously I’ll keep you updated of our journey.

Right now, I still don’t know all the ins and outs, the facts, the procedures, guidelines or even the correct medical terminology to use in relation to EDS.

So please don’t rely on my blog for facts, please visit Ehlers-Danlos Support UK where you can find out all the information you need.**


Fitting the puzzle pieces together

After 15 years at home watching and waiting for the ticking timebomb inside my baby (teengirl) to once again explode, and as I tried to find the final jigsaw piece that would finally explain what caused her brain haemorrhage, I got a job. And the one thing I feared would happen, happened.

A week after I started what I thought would be a routine hospital appointment for teengirl to be referred turned into a diagnosis of hypermobility and a diagnosis that teengirl is within the specturm for Ehlers Danlos Syndrome (EDS) – a rare connective tissue genetic disorder with several different types featuring many various symptoms and signs and experiencing varying severity.

Teengirl’s type is as yet unknown but given her symptoms and medical history – of which there’s so much more than I’ve shared here – it’s leaning towards Type 4 vascular.

The life threatening type.

Teengirl has been in pain for several years now. Our previous GP repeatedly fobbed us off telling us the burning pain in her knees when walking up hills or stairs was just growing pains and gave her exercises that caused more pain in her knees.

New GPs at the surgery assured us it wasn’t growing pains and referred teengirl for physiotherapy. The fantastic physiotherapist couldn’t understand teengirl’s pain as it reacted and responded unlike anything she’d ever seen before. The only thing she could come up with was perhaps it was linked in some way to the brain haemorrhage.  And so followed 6 months of knee clinic where teengirl joined all the pensioners who’d had knee surgery.

But her knees continued to hurt and knee clinic made the pain worse. Soon she was in experiencing the burning sensation pain in her knees walking on the flat..

Teengirl is due to sit her GCSE’s in 2015 and has mock exams next month. So when, in the summer, she began complaining of horrendous pain in her fingers and wrists when she was writing and also pain in her toes we returned to the GP.

Teengirl’s always had ‘weird’ fingers – exactly like her dad’s – they appear to dislocate on their own, she can bend her thumb right back to touch her wrist and bend her fingers in strange ways and at each joint, they also hyperextend.. Her toes are very similar.

This time a hospital appointment was requested with the GP suspecting rheumatoid arthritis or lupus or something else in that vain.

The day of the appointment dawned and off teengirl went with her grampa (I couldn’t get the time off work in my new job). She was upset when I got home from work but also happy because the diagnosis means she’s not mad, the pain she’s in every day is real.

Last week was her first occupational therapy appointment – one I had to fight for as they initially refused her referral!!! But once we were through the door they were amazing and teengirl’s OT has recommended she uses a laptop at school rather than write especially during exams. Teengirl can’t write for longer than 5 minutes without experiencing extreme pain and her handwriting is illegible.

Next Friday teengirl’s got a heart scan at the Evelina at Guys then a few months later a follow up hospital appointment where I will be pushing for genetic and skin tests because she needs a definitive diagnosis even if it means knowing she has a life threatening genetic disorder.

Unfortunately most painkillers don’t help and there’s no cure for either hypermobility or EDS.

**I am at the start of a long journey of education about Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS). Teengirl is still a long way from definitive diagnosis of type – if she ever gets one. Obviously I’ll keep you updated of our journey.

Right now, I still don’t know all the ins and outs, the facts, the procedures, guidelines or even the correct medical terminology to use in relation to EDS.

So please don’t rely on my blog for facts, please visit Ehlers-Danlos Support UK where you can find out all the information you need.**


I wrote this blog post back in August this year. After writing it my life changed so suddenly and so completely when, in the space of one week I got a job, that I didn’t get to post it. So here it is now…

Fifteen years ago on the 9/9/99 my life changed irrevocably when teengirl, or baby girl as she was then, got sick.
Less than a week later she was in a neurosurgery ward fighting for her life having already had one brain surgery.
And yet despite that serious surgery doctors were still convinced my baby wouldn’t survive that Thursday night.
Then when she did they didn’t expect her to survive the weekend. Every time they told me this I told them they were wrong. And they looked at me like I was either mad or I just wasn’t hearing them.

Two more brain surgeries later, two blood transfusions and after an e-coli infection in the fluid around her brain failed to beat her the doctor’s finally began to see the strength I saw in her – small smiles began to brighten their faces when they came into her room.

Six weeks later and my baby who was repeatedly expected to die was sent home from hospital looking like her head had a fight with a stapler and a cross-stitcher.

And I attempted to breathe out after the truck that hit me every morning drove away. But the breath was stuck firmly in my stomach, a knot of hard boiled air just sat there.

Before teengirl got sick I chased my dreams so hard that sometimes I hit them with such force I didn’t recognise them through my daze. My twenties were filled with adventures and terror; highlights and lowlights; fights; parties; joy; happiness; discontent.

In my twenties I got married – twice. Engaged 3 times. I also got divorced twice. I had two children, lived in France, Spain and America twice.

I had a great job as a national newspaper news journalist before teengirl got sick. I worked hard, it was stressful but damn I loved it and was actually pretty good at it. News stories I broke made front pages around the world, news stories that I’d uncovered changed laws and saved people’s lives.

And it hurts me to admit, in fact it terrifies me to admit, that I haven’t worked since the 16th of September 1999 and neither have I chased my dreams. I retreated into a space of tightness, exhaustion and fear where I felt safe despite constantly feeling afraid. A space where I had as close to total control as I could.

For the first year after teengirl came home I was a terrified wreck. Neurosurgeons had no idea what caused her subdural haematoma and they’d no idea if it would happen again.

The day I took her home from the hospital teengirl was a ten and a half month old beautiful baby girl with a shaved head featuring black stitches in a criss cross pattern down one side and a multitude of staples running from the front to the back of the top of her head that made people stare in disgust.

Just minutes before teengirl was discharged doctors told me she was a miracle. That I should be thankful she was alive. Then they told me they didn’t know what effect the brain haemorrhage would have on her: they didn’t know if she would walk or if she would talk, what she would be able to do.

Now you all know that teengirl can walk and boy can she talk, but those first few years were terrifying for me.
Doctors told me not to wrap her up in cotton wool, to let her go, let her fall, let her bump her head. When she walked at 18 months that hard boiled breath that lived in my stomach grew wings and flew to my throat with every tiny little wobbling step she took.

I bet you can guess how fast those wings of fear beat when this tiny little miracle with the head that was too big for her body opted to run everywhere instead of walk. Oh good god, how many times could one little girl fall over?

I couldn’t go back to work. Teengirl had first got sick when I was at work. I don’t think I ever forgave myself for not being there that day.

Year one featured terror, year two fear and mild depression, year three more depression with a side order of hope, year four I was diagnosed with PTSD and so on.

And I just never returned to work.

For the past 15 years I have stayed at home with teengirl and teenboy and then baby boy when he came along four and a half years ago. I have been firmly and fearfully ensconced in my comfort zone, living half a life – living an illusion.

Last week I did an NLP exercise that involved looking back 5 years and writing down what my life was like. I then wrote down where my life is now before writing down where I want it to be in five years from now. I was absolutely horrified to realise that my life today is the same as it was not just five years ago but 15 years ago.

And it turns out that I’m actually incredibly unhappy in my not so comfy comfort zone. What will I do every day when babyboy starts school?

I can’t continue to do the same thing every day and expect different results. It’s time for change. It’s time for me to climb out of the space that holds me too tightly perpetuating the hard boiled breath fixed like a fist in my chest, for me to stop trying to control the past, present and future, it’s time for me to let go – to rediscover my dreams and begin to chase them again.


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